Unfortunately in our country today, a lot of people get their dating, relationship, and love advice from TV, movies, and magazines.
Everything is about finding the One, or Mrs Right.
I am the way I am and I need to find the One who will fit my life. The person who will most satisfy my needs and desires, and it’s just a matter of time before I find her. It’s very passive.
It’s an outlook like this that contributes to our country’s high divorce rate. Because inevitably, our needs and desires change, and then the One will change to someone else. Someone younger, or prettier.
Counteracting this view requires us to fix our mindset. It’s the difference between finding the right person and being the right person.
When you’re single, most of the time you only have to worry about taking care of yourself. But, when you begin a relationship, it’s hard to make that switch from your needs to her needs. Dating (and marriages) can become a relationship of two selfish people each trying to get out of it what they want.
It’s a challenge for all men – putting someone else’s needs before our own.
For married men, this is a bit more tangible, because that someone else is right in front of us. Everyday, we must wake up and ask ourselves, how can I be the right person for my wife. What does she need right now? What can I do to help her? It’s putting her needs before ours.
For single men, it’s different but still very important. We can ask ourselves how can I love and be faithful to my future spouse now? It might seem like a silly question, but really take some time to think about it. What kind of man do you want to be as a husband and father – and start to be that man? Love your wife and be faithful to her, even before you know her.
Be the Men.