Most of the time, we can tell good from evil, or right from wrong. But sometimes, we hit a bit of a grey area. Something might not necessarily be wrong, but it may not be what’s best for us. This is a tricky place to find ourselves in.

In these cases, we can ask ourselves – am I living my life in pursuit of excellence, or am I living my life so I don’t do wrong.

I’d argue it should be the former, which becomes our measuring stick – is this helping me live an excellent life, or can I be doing something better?

An example might help. A few months ago, I came across a few articles talking about receiving communion in the hand versus in the mouth. Both are completely acceptable for practicing Catholics, i.e. neither is wrong. But, after reading and praying more about it, I reached this conclusion – if receiving communion in the mouth can help me be more respectful, more reverent, and more aware of Christ present in the Eucharist, then I will do it. That won’t be the same for everyone, but I think it illustrates the point.

There are countless other examples and instances in our lives where we must take a step back and choose the path of that leads to excellence (hopefully, holiness) – even if the alternative isn’t necessarily wrong, per se.


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