Just over a year ago, a buddy of mine from college got married. At the end of the night, a group of us ended up in the hotel lobby, and somehow we started going around in a circle giving the groom advice. I will tell you now what I told him then.

As husbands, as fathers, as men, we must live our lives like we are the last line of defense.

In other words, we can’t wait around for someone else to come and do our job for us. As protectors and providers, the responsibility falls on us.

This is true for the smallest tasks like cleaning up a spill in the kitchen, or the biggest jobs like raising kids.

If there’s a screaming baby in the middle of the night, and your wife is too exhausted, no one else is coming. You are the last line. It’s only you.

Sure, sometimes we’ll have help. Teachers, coaches, mentors can be a great influence for our children, but we can’t rely on other people to raise our kids. It’s our duty to protect them and raise them right. It’s not the teacher’s job, or the priest’s, or the president’s – it’s ours.

Now, I know some of you reading this aren’t married, aren’t dads, or your kids are all grown. But, this attitude is too rare in our world. It doesn’t matter if your single, married, young, old, the world needs men who are willing to defend what is right.

As Samwise Gamgee put it: “There’s some good in this world, Mr. Frodo. And it’s worth fighting for.


Be the Men,


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